Why does any parent choose to homeschool?
They are so many reasons parents decide to take the plunge into homeschooling and yes it feels like a plunge, not a jump, a plunge. Some people are organized and ready to go at it without a problem, not this mama. It was overwhelming, stressful, exhausting, and I wouldn’t change it for the world. Why do something so stressful? Let’s consider some of the reasons parents do it.
Physical health, from kids getting sick with viruses that are making our children violently and dangerously ill, sometimes requiring hospitalization and leaving parents praying their children recover which are rampant nowadays to bullying gone the extremes of school shootings and attacks on fellow students.
That word makes me sick to my stomach, maybe because it is one of the reasons I pulled my boys from public school. It has gone to a new extreme. Bullying used to be physical attacks causing children to come home with scraped knees, torn clothes, a black eye, or terrifyingly even a broken bone. A broken bone, horrible, nothing any parent ever wants their child to have to deal with. Then, it got worse.
Cyberbullying and verbal bullying have gone from teasing to torment, playing with emotions, groups disguised as, “cliques” verbally attacking kids, pretending to be their friends only to make them more vulnerable to attacks. Bullying is now emotionally tormenting our kids to the point that they are too embarrassed to come forward for help, becoming depressed to the point they are suicidal, or so hurt they decide to take action themselves and lives are lost. Some kids are sadly easy targets for bullies. Children with mental health conditions such as Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) and Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), just to name a couple of many conditions, may make children or teens more susceptible to becoming targets of bullying even though life has showed us bullies don’t discriminate, they will attack anyone they feel they can.
Mental and physical health conditions, along with learning disabilities can make learning hard for our kids. The ever rising, continuous pushing of our kids to learn more, increase the testing standards, make them work harder, learn faster not only stresses students without learning disabilities but for those of our children who do need additional help it can be even harder, more stressful, and even bring them to tears.
For any parent who has been through the process of trying to get a 504 plan, IEP, or any other services for their child they know how strenuous it can be and in general it never feels like enough is being done. So many children in school are on medication. I am not saying that someone is a bad parent for choosing it but it is hard when a child is put on medication simply because they have to keep up with the pace of 20 other students and an ever increasing curriculum. There is so much to cover to make sure each student is ready for that all so important test that pushes so many so close to their breaking points that some very important skills could be missed just because they aren’t chosen as a skill necessary enough to make the cut to be a part of the state exam.
Each of us has our own set of morals and values that we instill in our children. Unfortunately, they are all different. It was a bit of a shock to sit down to lunch with my 1st and 2nd grade children in the school cafeteria and very clearly hear vulgarity and curse words within the laughter of other students. There are new concerns in the schools, a new trend has emerged. The words and subjects we don’t want our children to hear from other students are now coming from books, books that can be found in their own school library.
So why homeschool? I can tell you why I chose to. My son came home in tears every day but refused to tell me why. I visited the school, I volunteered at the school, and I talked to the counselor only to be told, “They are just adjusting.” The teacher’s response, “He is doing just fine.” The following year, the first day of school my son started shaking as we drove into the school parking lot and confessed that he was being threatened every day by other students. I cried and felt horrible. My other son curled up in my lap in tears and said he couldn’t do it, it was too hard, he had no friends, and said, “Please mom, don’t make me go.” More tears, more pain.
I put the car in reverse and brought my boys home. Our journey began. No more tears, no more sadness.
That is why I homeschool.
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