This post is dedicated to the special needs mothers all over the world.
The world does not see our pain because we will not allow it to break us but it does not mean that we do not hurt.
While sifting through medical documentation I heard a family member who noticed one doctor he was referred to was listed as providing psychiatric care say, “They didn’t send me for psychiatric care, I don’t need that, I am not a nut.”
Nut. Mental Case. Schizoid. Freak. Then the worst one of all, we all know it is the one most offensive, the R word.
All of these words are used too commonly, jokingly, by the world, like it is not a big deal and people with mental health disabilities are not given the same respect or support as those with perhaps a physical disability or illness. While it may not seem like a big deal or like it should be to most people, to those suffering or caregivers to someone suffering with a mental health condition those words can be hurtful.
My heart sank, I wanted to throw up or cry, I wasn’t sure which. All I knew was my heart was in my stomach and throat all at the same time. I could not believe what I had heard, from my father, from my son’s grandfather. I walked away as quickly as I could and shut the door behind me. I wanted to turn around and scream at him but I held back knowing that would do nothing. So I came here, to my computer, my sanctuary. This is my safe place, where I can speak my mind and no one in the world can stop me. My thoughts still raced.
My child receives that type of care; how dare anyone refer to him or anyone with a mental health condition like that.
That hurts, its ugly and offensive.
No, its not the R word but it still hurts.
I know I shouldn’t let that bother me, it is the small minded mentality, even within family but it still ticks me off to no end. Yes, family, sometimes, many times we must deal with pain and hurtful words and comments coming from parents, aunts, uncles, siblings, cousins, not to mention stares and ignorant murmurings from strangers. Having a large family does not mean that we have a large support within our family, there are families that are supportive, but sadly there are also those that are not.
Because society is small minded, because society tells us we have to fit a mold, because society makes rules they want to enforce, we must compromise who we are, to fit closer to that mold or people stare and murmur because our children don’t fit their mold.
That’s why they need psychiatric care, because they have to find a way to act and react to a world without compassion.
We are the warriors of this world, fighting not a physical fight but fighting to break the mold of society, so that our children will grow up not seeing themselves as different but simply, people.
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